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Friendship

The Bible's picture of friendship is refreshingly unromantic. It doesn't describe pleasant companionship so much as relationships that prove themselves under load. A friend loves "at all times" — the phrase quietly sets the bar past the easy stretch, into the seasons when someone is difficult, depleted, or costly to be around. Ecclesiastes, the least sentimental book in Scripture, makes the case almost brutally: two are better than one, because when one falls the other lifts him up. Note the assumption buried there — not if someone falls, but when. Falling is treated as a normal feature of a life. The tragedy named isn't falling; it's falling alone, and the warning is aimed squarely at anyone who has made self-sufficiency into a virtue. And then there's the friction: iron sharpens iron, an image that requires contact and pressure and throws sparks. The friends who actually improve you are not only the comfortable ones. Two questions run through all of it — who would lift you, and whose adversity are you built for?

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